The impact of saying thank you goes far beyond the short term impact.
Saying thank you literally impacts your emotional health.
Human beings fundamentally need three truths to be believed in order to lead emotionally healthy lives.
I am loved.
I am worthy and deserving of this life.
I am not invisible. I am seen.
At the beginning and end of each day, we have to know that we’re significant. We have to know and believe that the world around us knows that we’re here….that the things we do, the things we say, the things we think all have serious, real life, real world impact.
So what does any of that have to do with gratitude and its effect on our mental health?
Let’s break down what happens when we say thank you.
When you and I physically act on appreciation, what we’re really doing is acknowledging the value we give to the people around us.
We’re saying, “Hey- I recognize that you have positively contributed to my life and I want you to know that you are valuable.”
When we say thank you or I appreciate you, we’re saying that the end receiver has value! We’re letting our community know that we see and recognize the positive influence and impact that it has on our lives. We’re getting out of our heads about appreciation and we’re sharing it with the source.
The personal impact of practicing physical gratitude is just as incredible.
When we say thank you, we’re forcing ourselves to see that the world we live in is in fact positively contributing to our life. We’re mentally shifting our focus to see the good. We’re redirecting our mindset to become one that says, “there’s actually a lot of value that’s being contributed to my life right now.”
Those truths we need to believe to lead healthy lives- I am loved; I am worthy; I am not invisible, are all satisfied when we shift our attitude to one of gratitude.
We recognize there are things around us to be thankful for.
We share that we’re thankful for the source.
We acknowledge that there are things around us that are contributing positively to our lives, that we are valuable and worthy of receiving such blessings.
The recognition forces us to believe that we’re seen! Duh! How could our community impact someone they can’t see, interact or engage with?
The reality is that we lose the benefits of physical gratitude when we choose to not be physical about it.
When we choose to assume that the people around us know that we’re grateful for them, we take away their chance of believing those fundamental truths…
that they are loved, valuable and seen.
Too many people walk around this life unaware of their impact, blind to their influence.
Sometimes our assumptions are more damaging than anything else. Assuming that the people around us know that they bring value to our lives blocks out any chance the receiver has from experiencing the incredible impact physical gratitude can have.
Physical gratitude is important not only for our mental health, but the mental health of the person we’re grateful for!